We...

A strange phenomenon entered my speech patterns over a year ago. It may have been present before then, but I didn't notice until more recently. When Sam and I first got married, we each had very exciting things going on in our lives. We were both working, I was a student, he had graduate school coming up, etc.

Now, although both of our lives are exciting, they are exciting in very different ways. His way is the classic excitement: he is about to graduate, he is looking for a job, he has multiple very demanding side jobs, he is always meeting new people. My exciting is a little harder to explain to people: I stay at home with the most adorable, frizzy-haired toddler with cheeks that make me want to smooch him and sass like a teenage girl.

I am as excited for Sam's life as he is for mine. We kind of absorb each others' lives. When I talk to people, I find myself saying, "We are students," "We don't have a job yet," or "We have lots of homework so we can't go to [activity]." None of these things are true for me! Sam is a student! Sam doesn't have a job yet; I am not looking. Sam has lots of homework; after 8pm, I can do whatever I want!

I know it is strange to talk to people as if Sam and I are the same person, but I like it this way. It makes me feel like we are unified. We care so much about what the other person is doing that it becomes as if we were doing it together. So I will let the "We" continue. We are doing very well today.